Philosophy

Ta Promh

What I create with clients is deeply rooted in my personal beliefs, among them:

Answers that come from the client’s experience are more powerful than external solutions intended to “fix” the client.

Individuals, couples and groups have their own unique change processes, highly influenced by their experience and their beliefs.  A soft focus on what’s shifting in the client creates more enduring change than an external preconception of what “should” be happening, because the source of the shift is an integral part of the client.

A trained supportive observer can identify blocks or obstacles that are invisible to us.

No matter how much effort we spend on personal or group development, it’s human nature to overlook strengths because we take them for granted.  We also can be unaware of limiting beliefs because they’re the way we’ve always looked at things.  Sometimes, we’re simply too close to our issues to see them clearly, and that limits our ability to move beyond them.

Expanding what IS working is more effective than focusing on what isn’t working.

When you’re stuck, it’s almost always because a set of strengths or skills isn’t being used. Whether as an individual or group, identifying and shifting the limiting beliefs that are holding core strengths in check unleashes your full potential to shape your goals — and your life.

The present is the only place where change can be created.

Maintaining a pragmatic focus on what’s possible right now, rather than analyzing the past or worrying about the future, accelerates change.   Looking for what’s trying to emerge in the present and clearing the path for it to happen expedites change.

Individuals and groups operate according to general rules of systems.

Yes, we’re each unique, but we also share common attributes as humans.  Understanding how change happens in systems identifies the richest and most accessible areas where change can occur.

Relationship is our greatest source of growth and learning.

Often we avoid aspects of relationship like conflict and vulnerability because we’ve been wounded by them.  They’re not intrinsically damaging, in fact they can be sources of deep connection and learning.  Wounding happens when we don’t have the skills and tools to work through differences constructively.  These skills and tools can be learned, and coaching is a great place to learn them.